21 Bible Verses That Will Transform A Broken Marriage.

By David Small •  Updated: 05/17/19 •  16 min read

Do you know you can transform a broken marriage by the word of God?

Marriage is more than kisses and hugs; it’s also three meals a day and throwing the garbage at night. For this reason, these are some verses to transform your troubled marriage.

 2 Timothy 3: 16 says, “All scripture is God-breathed and is helpful for teaching, rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness.

As we all know, no marriage is completely free of troubles, but we must remember that all problems in marriage have a cause; regrettably, many couples focus on the symptoms rather than the source.

Our spouses’ angry or harsh words or actions make us feel guilty, but we don’t know why we’re feeling this way.

Chapter 7 of the first epistle to the Corinthians is where the Holy Spirit tells us about marriage troubles, and in these writings, we can learn about some of the reasons for these problems.

Divorce is so commonplace in our society today that we have grown accustomed to it.

Our permissive society has made it seem like a must-of-life. But it wasn’t like that from the beginning. Before you think of divorcing your spouse, remember God hates divorce.

To transform a broken marriage both of you have to work together.

It might seem convenient to run away from your marital problems, but there is a better way- with God’s help you can save your marriage.

Divorce should be the last, and let me emphasize the last option.

This is one of the primary reasons why Jesus came- to bind up broken hearts. There is nothing too broken for his hands to fix.

There is no marriage too broken for him to fix. If you prayerfully take it to him, he will heal your marriage and give you a new start.

A troubled marriage can be healed with the help of these 21 bible verses and scripture references, which I’ll be sharing with you in this article.

I pray these verses will challenge you and equip you for every good work in your troubled marriage.

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What are Bible-based solutions to solving troubled marriage?

When we are battling a troubled marriage, where may we find hope? The Bible includes verses that can assist save your shattered marriage with the activity of the Holy Spirit.

Indeed, it is only the grace of God that can redeem the deep wounds that sometimes bring us to the point where our marriage feels like it is failing.

Let’s explore some scriptures on marriage restoration and how we can apply them to our lives:

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  1. A kind response turns away anger, but harsh words cause tempers to flare. (Proverbs 15:1)

Listen quickly when your spouse comments on his tone. It’s easy to let your hair stand on end as soon as your spouse talks about your bad mood or lack of grace in the style you’re taking.

Instead of perceiving his remarks as an open invitation to engage in a battle, consider them a warning sign that it’s time to take a step back and examine your own heart.

  1. Since God chose you to be the holy people you love, you should clothe yourself with tender-hearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. (Colossians 3:12)

If we have lost connection with our spouse, one way to rebuild what we once had is through a heart-to-heart connection, which means connecting emotionally before anything else.

To achieve this, first of all, we need the power of God that gives us tenderness, gentleness, kindness, humility and great patience that figures in Colossians.

  1. Instead, be kind to one another, tender, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. (Ephesians 4:32)

Do you know how often you have to apologize to the same person to stay connected throughout life? Many times.

The struggle is that those “sorrows” become harder to say and accept. Bitterness begins to form instead of forgiveness.

Don’t get discouraged and stop apologizing because you think his words have no effect. Apologies will never cease to be necessary for a committed relationship.

Even more than that, keep forgiving. Jesus said we forgive without ceasing, and indeed he had marriage in mind when he gave that advice. It’s not easy, but living together means a million apologies and a million times to forgive!

  1. Let’s think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good deeds. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage each other, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near. (Hebrews 10:24-25)

We have all heard the “it takes a village” saying about children. The same is true for strong, healthy, godly marriages.

Accountability is critical to a healthy marriage and essential while attempting to rebuild the damaged spaces in your troubled marriage.

For seasons, your people might even be professional Christian counselors. The power of meeting with a professional with the stated intention of getting better at loving one another is incredible.

Also see the book: Rebuilding A Marriage Better Than New

  1. But when I am afraid, I will trust in you. (Psalms 56:7)

Fear might accompany us when we are faced with the anguish of relationship failure. Fear of continuing to be wrong, fear that God or others might be disappointed in you, and the list goes on.

  1. The hope of the righteous will be joy, but the expectation of the wicked will perish. (Proverbs 10:28)

Life is severe enough that couples need to be reminded to laugh together to help ease the tension that comes with a failing marriage. One of the best ways to remember the joys of being together is to laugh about it.

In the Bible, When Nehemiah tells his people that the Lord’s presence is their source of strength, he inspires them to persevere.

Power is just not found in being so occupied or united that you don’t have time to crack a smile. Strength comes when we slow down enough to experience the joy of God in our lives.

If you’re on edge, pause and remember the last time you laughed. To start, think about the activities and memories that brought you and your spouse together. Commit to doing things that will put a smile back on your face.

  1. Now, about food sacrificed to idols, we know that we all have knowledge [concerning this].

  2. Knowledge [alone] makes [people self-righteously] arrogant, but love [that unselfishly seeks the best for others] builds up and encourages others to grow [in wisdom]. (Corinthians 8:1)

Being right and winning are at the heart of knowledge. Love builds the people in your life. When our marriage is in trouble, we need to stop beating in our conversations and focus on showing love in our interactions.

If we don’t have love, we have nothing. I wonder how many hours of debate we could avoid if we could understand Paul’s message. Our relationships come first, and our opinions are left for last when we live with love.’

  1. Nevertheless, God was not pleased with most of them; their bodies were scattered in the wilderness. (Corinthians 10:5)

The battle for a joyful marriage begins in mind. The state of our marriage often reflects how well we know our God. When we live a spirit-filled life, we can more easily see when our attitudes or thoughts do not line up with Christ’s instructions.

To find joy in our relationship, we must be marked by the Holy Spirit. Let the Holy Spirit convict you if your thoughts do not align with God’s word for your marriage.

Paul tells us to “teach” our thoughts to obey Christ. We cannot be passive about what goes on in our minds. We gain joy for our marriages by training our minds to expect it

  1. Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing obligation to love one another, for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law. (9. Romans 13:8)

The Bible teaches that we have an obligation to one another: love. When we want to heal the feeling that our spouse doesn’t love us, it helps to remember that your husband or wife is your closest neighbor.

If you are offering them the remains of your mood, time, and commitment, then you are not following God’s instructions for your life.

If we want to be part of the same team as couples, we must cultivate a culture of honest and open communication in our home.

Focus on communicating the details of each day, your gratitude to each other, and openly sharing how you feel. Communication increases connection, which leads to loving each other well again.

  1. The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the LORD Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful. (Malachi 2:16).

Divorce has become so regular in our society that we’ve become accustomed to it. Permissive culture has made it appear like an essential part of daily existence.

However, things were not always this way. Keep in mind the fact that God is against divorce. Both of you must put forth the effort to mend a shattered relationship.

There is always a better way, and you can still save your marriage with God’s aid than to run away from your marital issues. There should be no divorce at all.

  1. He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.” (Psalms 46:10).

Tough times call for strict action. There are times when fighting is the best way to win, but there are also occasions when it’s better to avoid it.

To overcome the difficulties that threaten to shatter your marriage, give it all up and let the Lord handle it.

If you’re still battling for your interests, God won’t stand up for you. He has no intention of sharing his success with anyone else. You must be able to let go and allow God to take control.

  1. Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands as you do to the Lord. (Ephesians 5:22)

Our selfish natures are innate. To put the needs of others ahead of one’s own requires conscious effort.

If the subject of submitting had been taken more seriously, most of the marriage troubles would not have existed. No one wants to be seen as the weak one these days, so everyone wants their way.

However, submission necessitates maturity in comprehending that it takes two to tame a troubled marriage and make it work again.

Mature people understand that the opinions of others are as important as their own. Please don’t assume your spouse is wrong; instead, learn to see things from their perspective.

  1. Husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them (Colossians 3:19).

A wife loved in the same way Christ loved the church has no trouble submitting to her husband. It’s God’s design for the perfect love cycle.

The more a husband adores his wife, the more she submits to him, and the more he loves her, the more she offers to him.

As the head of the house, the husband is responsible for ensuring that this circle is not broken, just as Christ is the head of the church.

The standard by which husbands should measure their love for their wives is the kind of love Jesus shows the church.

Not because it was deserving of Jesus’ love, but because he was in love with it. He had a deep and abiding love for the

Also Checkout: 35 Powerful Bible Verses to Heal A Broken Marriage.

Promises from God for a troubled marriage

These promises of God for the troubled marriage are a blessing that I want to share with you. Maybe you came here out of curiosity or because you need help.

Regardless of the reason, God has words today to save your marriage. Proof of these ate the this list of Bible verses for troubled marriage containing the wisest advice for a successful marriage.

And if you start applying them from today, you will have a marriage that endures in the face of trials and difficulties.

  1. Love never gives up, and his faith, hope and patience never fail. (Corinthians 13:7)

it means that love is willing to hide or conceal the faults and imperfections of others; not promulgate or emblazon them abroad, nor give them undue publicity.

To be kind to the individual or the public, these flaws and errors would have to be covered up. If this is the sense, it almost agrees with what is said in the previous verse. The word can also mean, endure.

  1. Marriage shall be honorable in all, and the marriage bed undefiled, but fornicators and adulterers God will judge Hebrews 13:4

The point here is that “honour” is shown in the marital relationship.

It must not be underestimated under the pretense of the superior purity of a celibate state, as if marriage were inappropriate for any class of people or any condition of life, and a breach of the marriage contract should not dishonour it.

The course of events has shown ample reason for the apostle to assert emphatically that “marriage was an honorable condition of life.

  1. Who finds a virtuous woman? For their price far exceeds rubies. (Proverbs 31:1 )

The praise of a virtuous woman; form a Hebrew acrostic. The 22 years begin with the several 22 letters of the Hebrew alphabet one after the other.

M. Henry calls it ‘a lady’s lockable jar’. Lemuel’s “mother” suggested the example of “a virtuous woman” – Hebrew, chail: brave, energetic, good.

  1. Husbands love your wives [with an affectionate, sympathetic, selfless love that always seeks the best for them].

Do not be embittered or resentful toward them [because of the responsibilities of marriage]. (Colossians 3:19).

A wife loved in the same way Christ loved the church has no trouble submitting to her husband. It’s God’s design for the perfect love cycle.

The more a husband adores his wife, the more she submits to him, and the more he loves her, the more she presents to him.

Husband, as the head of the house, is responsible for ensuring that this circle is not broken, just as Christ is the head of the church.

The standard by which husbands should measure their love for their wives is the kind of love Jesus shows the church. Not because it was deserving of Jesus’ love, but because he was in love with it.

  1. That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)

The fact that a man left his parents to live with his wife and become one flesh was part of God’s original purpose tells us a lot.

However, God does not mean that we should completely disregard our families; instead, it indicates a future world in which families are no longer dependent on outside influences.

They would think and act as if they were one person if they became one flesh.

  1. Be still and know (recognize, understand) that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations! I will be exalted in the earth. (Psalms 46:10).

Tough times call for strict action. There are times when fighting is the best way to win, but there are also occasions when it’s better to avoid it.

To overcome the difficulties that threaten to shatter your marriage, give it all up and let the Lord handle it. If you’re still battling for your interests, God won’t stand up for you. He has no intention of sharing his success with anyone else. You must be able to let go and allow God to take control.

  1. For this reason, I am telling you, whatever things you ask for in prayer [in accordance with God’s will], believe [with confident trust] that you have received them, and they will be given to you. (Mark 11:24).

The majority of unanswered prayers lack faith. If you pray with confidence; you’ll receive a response far faster than you think.

God can solve any problem. No one is beyond the reach of God’s grace. However, there is one caveat: when you pray for change, you must do it with confidence.

  1. Without counsel, plans fail, but with many advisers, they succeed. (Proverbs 15:22).

No one is ever too experienced to seek advice. Don’t be afraid to seek advice. The only restriction is that you should only seek advice from Christians.

Don’t go to a counselor who hasn’t been born again for marriage counseling. The advice they provide you is likely to be scriptural.

It’s possible to save your marriage, however, if you find the correct counselor and follow their recommendations.

  1. The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the LORD Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful. (Malachi 2:16).

Divorce has become so regular in our society that we’ve become accustomed to it. Permissive culture has made it appear like an essential part of daily existence.

However, things were not always this way. Keep in mind the fact that God is against divorce. Both of you must put forth the effort to mend a shattered relationship.

There is always a better way, and you can still save your marriage with God’s aid than to run away from your marital issues. There should be no divorce at all.

Conclusion

We miss the foundational truth when we jump right into marriage instruction without applying the practical guidelines in the preceding verses.

Troubled marriage takes a backseat when each spouse applies these truths to his personal life and strives to make his relationship with the Lord the primary focus.

When two committed Christians set out to seek God’s heart and follow his will no matter what, there will be no problem they cannot solve.

It is also wise to heed the verses of the particular instruction for marriage. Ephesians 5:18-21

Always give thanks to God and Father for everything in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ! Submit to one another in fear of Christ.”

God’s occult ways have the ability to change anything into something else.

As long as you are following God’s directions, your troubled marriage will be successful.
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Transform a broken Marriage Resources.

From Broken to Beautiful: 9 Secrets That Will Transform Your Marriage. by Sarah Jane Patton

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert.by John Gottman Ph.D.

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